I asked 2 different strangers to take our pic and this was the best shot they could get...a mommy date with mom friends and a mom to be!
I like to research things. So I kinda surprised myself that I didn't get a zillion books while I was pregnant and research everything about birth, breastfeeding, and parenthood. I think subconsciously I know myself well. I tend to be a worrier; I think if I read all those books I would've realized how clueless I was and freaked myself out about everything.
It wasn't until Parker was about a month old that I dusted off a few books that friends had loaned me and started intently studying them. So many books; such conflicting information. Cry it out? Sleep training? Schedules? What's a new mom to do?
My experience with following the methods of a couple of popular books failed. I actually was more stressed out and overwhelmed trying to implement these authors techniques and plans. Instead, I tuned in to my daughters needs and my instincts, and that seems to be working well for us. Do I let my baby cry it out? Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. Do I nurse her to sleep when the books say I shouldn't? Yep. Do I wear my baby? I try to but she hates it.
I'm not saying you shouldn't read books about parenting; I know some mom's who follow the advice of these books religiously and both mom and baby seem to adapt well. To be honest, I would've preferred that my baby adapted well too. It would've made life a heck of a lot more predictable. But she didn't (or perhaps I gave up too quickly?) But once I decided that those books weren't the bible on parenting, I let it go. And Parker and I are both all the happier.
All that to say, books are great, but there are generations of moms who've raised children without these how to manuals. Trust your gut and intuition!
Was there a parenting book that you swear by? Or did you just do what felt right?